Jonny the Recovering Technophiliac

Sometimes on my spare time i browse through blogs on my links and enjoy reading the thoughts of other people. Along the way i found a blog post by my friend Mike that really hit a chord on me for many reasons. Right now i’m in Astoria coming out of the gym, but when i read his post i had to find a place to sit, whip out ye olde iPhone and tap away.

My way of presenting honesty to people has somewhat changed over the months. I used to avoid confrontation because I was never a fan of it, I was too nice. Now, my delivery is not sugar-coated, but at the same time not brutal. This way my words get across without anyone on the receiving-end labeling me as an asshole, for lack of a more appropriate word. Here’s my take on the topic as a whole:

It can have an unlimited amount of interpretations…our job is to deliver it correctly. If you tell someone something that is intended to be sage advice, yet you deliver it incorrectly, then sure you get your point across but they may take it as an insult. As a result, whatever you said becomes refutable, you could be pre-judged, and at worst, walked away with a bad, yet misinterpreted impression. And whoever says they don’t care about impressions, are lying…they do and it will affect them. Am i saying every word needs to be spoon-fed delicately by a butler to everyone? No…balancing brutal honesty with some consideration go in tandem. But it also depends on the person you’re talking to, yet another factor to weigh in.

So the problem is simple…if honesty has an unlimited amount of interpretations, then so does it’s delivery. There are some people who deserve the brutal 3rd degree, and there are some don’t. And sometimes people mix up their “delivery forms”, where the hostile person gets a lemon-scented card delivered by a trained & ribboned labradoodle, whereas the nice guy or gal gets something that resembles a scathing traffic ticket with a red angry font delivered by a rabid labradoodle.

As much as the solution i or anyone else may present will sound “easier said than done”, it is still possible. If delivered correctly and justly, the good people will gain a better understanding of you and realize how much you care enough to be honest. As for the bad people out there, they’ll get what’s coming, and chances are, will walk away humiliated with bite marks from the same rabid labradoodle.

p.s. goto mike’s blog…lots of neat musings http://michaelrosario.com/

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